Seeking genius IT slave to assist with maintenance of my website and online security. The following are required for the position:

  • Firm understanding of WordPress, as that is what my site has been created in
  • Firm understanding of HTML
  • Ability to clean up code of site without breaking it
  • Understanding of javascript and CSS
  • Familiarity with basic online security and privacy practices and maintaining security of our server

In addition, although ability to do the work is paramount, a certain compatibility of personality is also required. You must be trustworthy, discreet, loyal, kind, patient, dutiful, and low ego. This is an opportunity to work closely with myself and a terrific team. We function in a way as our own kinky little family, and the core team looks out for each other in many ways.

I would prefer to bring someone on for a minimum of a one-year commitment. I understand life circumstances change, but it is not really efficient for me to onboard someone for a shorter time commitment than that.

Please apply here.


I have an opening for a new domestic slave in New York City, all genders welcome. Titles I will consider:

  • Maid
  • Secretary
  • Errand Boy
  • Girl/Boy Friday
  • Lackey

This particular position will involve working closely with me in both my home and my studio, as well as a certain requisite amount of public interaction (going to the store, coming with me on errands, running errands yourself, etc). You will need to budget approximately 8-10 hours per week for the duration of your service. Please apply here and a member of the team will get back to you as soon as possible. If it is not incredibly clear already: this is not a paid position. Nor are you asked to pay. This is personal slavery: a way to better my life in very specific and tangible ways.

I am always seeking out new team members for the stable of slaves that collectively make up Team Darcy. I require New York City slaves for numerous tasks on a daily basis and an assortment of remote/long distance slaves to handle my administrative work. I could not do what I do without my team. Regardless of your location or position, in order to apply you must be a dedicated, service-oriented submissive focused on making my life easier in any way that you can.


November is the most special month of the year. Why? Because it’s my BIRTHDAY MONTH!

I love attention and gifts, so your wishes, tweets, emails, cards and presents really do make a difference. I cherish each adoring fan I have. Seriously! I love you for loving me!

If you want to spoil me you can get me any of the delicious things from my Amazon Wishlist, or visit my Site’s Wishlist for a full idea of my tastes and interests. Each of the items on my Site Wishlist have been hand-picked by me.

If you REALLY want to give us both a gift, just book a session with me this month. You deserve to spoil yourself too, from time to time. I’ll be in New York until November 22, then in London November 23-30.

Make it a month for us BOTH to celebrate. (See photo: me partying on the dancefloor on Halloween in my preferred attire. More of that to come the next few weeks!)

Man looking up

Below is an email from one of my favorite slaves. I am grateful for his gratitude, adore his adoration, and put tremendous thought into my sessions with him–because before and after each session he puts tremendous thought towards me. As a ProDomme, I can never love you. But I take your love for me, revel in it, churn it inside of me and wrap you back up inside it like a blanket. This is why it’s so important to give yourself fully and joyfully to your Domme, especially in a heavy D/s dynamic. A Domme is merely a movie projector in the cinema of your being: whatever small reel of yourself you decide to hand over, she will cast it ten times high on the walls. Give bitterness, and she shows you bitterness. Give impatience, and she shows you impatience. Give respect and worship, and she will raise your name up to the sky.

Submission is never perfect, but this comes pretty close.

I have one comment that I want to explain. “You use everything.” This is what I said, not very clearly, after my last session with you. I had something specific in mind. Before the session, when we were discussing possibilities for roleplay, I said that part of the interest of a revenge scenario is that it could incorporate reversals, but a reversal would be impossible for me, because I wouldn’t be able to interact with you as an equal. You not only incorporated this problem into the scene, you assigned it to me as a task, and made it central: my failure to approach you as an equal in the date scenario triggered the revenge scenario.

You did something similar the time before that. That time, I remember, I brought a lot of bad energy to the session. In addition to my usual nervousness, I was distracted by worries about false issues, and then I was terrified of some of the play with water. I also had a very full bladder; earlier, worried that I might get dehydrated, I had overcompensated by drinking a lot of water. Again you incorporated all of my problems into the session, forcing me to confess my inadequacies, pushing me to confront my fear of drowning until my fear response exhausted itself, and humiliating me by having me piss into a drain on the deck under the open sky. The water motif nicely tied together the entire afternoon.

Of course you also use whatever good energy I bring. My desire to submit. How I want to entertain you and not disappoint you.

You’re very perceptive of my capabilities and problems, and you seem to know how to use all of them. The feeling of your curiosity being directed toward me, your opening me up and absorbing and manipulating me, is powerful. I also appreciate your suggestions for ways I could improve, not just as a submissive but as a person. It is odd to come away from a session dedicated to humiliation with a sense that I need to get better at saying good things about myself. But really touching.

-slave A 



I just received an email from a slave that had the following closer:

“You have restored my faith in professional domination after what was for me an extremely toxic and heartbreaking experience.”

Lately I have started to admit my vulnerabilities publicly. A human is a human, a woman is a woman, and any Domme who sells herself as invincible and truly “heartless” is lying, or advertising, or just getting high off her own image (guilty of the last two, all the time). Invincibility doesn’t exist. Every human on this Earth has insecurities and moments of sadness, and the more a person can get in touch with their own “weakness” and come to accept it and give it room to exist peacefully within them, the more that person can understand and help others with those same struggles. Strength through softness. Speaking through listening. Control through allowing. All of those are aspects of my personality that I pride myself on and that have helped lead to any success I’ve had as a professional D/s practitioner. Ironically many of those same paradigms can, with a subtle tweak, be applied just as easily to a sub. I would say what they have in common is compassion. We can thus derive that subs and Dommes with compassion are, in general, better humans. Well duh!

The reason why it is so easy to forget that rule in the kink world is that so much of it is based on the fantastic denial of that fact. It is often the most thrilling part of a session to sense a Dom/me “doesn’t give a fuck” about you or your suffering and carries on with the session regardless of how much you appear to be suffering mentally, physically or emotionally. This, as the most basic of us know (but can choose to forget), is fantasy. In reality, a Dom/me must not only “always give a fuck,” he/she must place their sub’s wellbeing on the same level as his/her own. This is basic humanity. In spite of the very convincing fantasy of D/s that screams the very opposite; in spite of the need to advertise as a merciless narcissist who will ruin your life; in spite of the fact that ProDomming is transactional and a Dom/me must take your (the client’s) money in order to dominate you; in spite of the fact that the burn-out rate for ProDomming is incredibly high and can lead to low energy or negativity; in spite of the fact that the best of us are utterly capable of making you fall in love with us without ever returning an emotion back to you except indifference; it is the charge of the Dom/me to uphold a basic code of ethics that, at its core, helps the sub to grow and heal from the inevitable scars of life.

I ProDomme still because I know I am helping people, and that email I got reminds me of it. I engineer your suffering to purge you of it. I take on your shame and guilt, your addiction and your perversion, and I make it all bearable via the conduit of my control and my desires. A dirty thing held by a God/dess becomes clean. This is why I never allow people to give feedback once a session has started–“requests” are verboten. You must state yourself, your interests, and your limits upfront, and then you hand the responsibility over to me. When I take responsibility for the session, I take all of your wounds, weaknesses, and confusion and set you free with my wholeness, strength, and clarity. My greatness raises you up. My acceptance of you makes you acceptable. And I am happy to do this for you. I live for this, in fact. This unique way of bonding with someone transcends any one relationship in breadth and power. I become mother, father, God, priest, sister, brother, friend, wife, lover, and teacher. In the best of sessions, the generous energy of you meets the generous energy of me, alchemy occurs, and we are both transformed.

I will continue to be occasionally vulnerable. My heart has broken many times. I have had toxic experiences, and confusing ones, and shameful ones. However, the important thing is that I am able to heal myself and reach out of that place in order to help someone else, guiding them out of their own fog. I know the way out of darkness, because I have walked it myself. How else could I navigate you out of it? And you: you give me the strength to continue to be strong. Thank you for raising me up. I will do everything I can to take you with me.


I get asked at least once a week what my absolute favorite kink activities are. Mostly it is asked by new people who are not that familiar with my writing and general persona (read: lazy). So I thought I would just write a quick list of some of my favorite things both in and out of session for everyone who wants the synopsis. Also because I’m at my computer and horny…but too exhausted to really move right now, so I’ll have to get my rocks off at the keyboard until I can motivate over to my vibrator drawer.

In roughly ascending order (man, it was hard to choose)…

20. Face Slapping

19. Humiliation (General)

18. Caning

17. Leather Boots

16. Dominant Life Coaching

15. Breath Control and Choking

14. Toilet Training

13. Punching

12. Creative Roleplays

11. Mind Games/Mind Fucking

10. Verbal Takedowns

9. Tickling

8. Sub Girls

7. Cuckolding

6. Foot Massages

5. English Boys

4. Edge Play (not to be confused with Edging!)

3. Age Play

2. 8+ Dicks

1. D/s dynamics in a non-session context (i.e. “real”)

I will be celebrating my birthday in Florida this year from November 28-December 3 and will be taking limited sessions on the trip: advanced noticed is definitely required. My availability and dates are:

November 28-30: Orlando (Disney World area)
December 1-3: Miami (South Beach)

December 3 is the best day for sessions, but I am flexible with enough notice. Please note I will be traveling with 3 ProDomme friends if you’re interested in any doubles or triples (Leona Stern and Goddess Cleo from London, and another very in-demand lifestyle Domme friend from New York), as well as my 8-inch English Bull and another male Dom friend of mine. I am free for cuckolding sessions–as long as the Bull hasn’t worn me out too much the night before–and obviously bukkake and forced bi are on the menu with two handsome men in tow. I’ll be doing sessions from my South Beach hotel suite, meaning lots of hand tools, humiliation, and corporal punishment. And anyone who wants a public humiliation session is welcome to try their luck at my actual birthday party. You may not survive till we cut the cake though; 4 Dommes, 2 male Doms and an open bar is a recipe for slave destruction.

I am so excited to be sprouting another leaf on my tree of life next month (late November). It has been one of the best years in memory, and next year promises a glorious blossoming of the many wonderful seeds planted in 2012. My slaves, friends, fans and kinky colleagues are some of the best humans I know, and I am so grateful and filled with love and respect for the connections I have in the scene both in the states and abroad. The only way things can get better is with PRESENTS LOTS OF PRESENTS I WANT SHINY PRETTY GIFTS!!!

My top gift request is simply cash contributions via PayPal for the epic Miami Birthday Weekend I am planning November 30-December 2. I rarely throw parties these days so it is kind of a big deal. You may send these via Paypal, email me for details.


My Birthday Wishlist (please include gift receipt with all purchases):

You may purchase and arrange delivery anonymously through my personal assistant at or contact me at to deliver to me in-person.



I am very pleased to announce my sponser for this year’s Dommetrips excursion: slave E has won the incredible honor of accompanying me to the Dominican Republic this year. He is polite, very intelligent, and hails from Scandinavia. He’ll be flying out to New York first then accompanying me on the flight to the DR where we will have 8 days of relaxation in the Dominican sunshine. He’s got a cozy cabana to himself and has sprung for a seaside villa for his Mistress a few doors down…meaning ample space for playtime but privacy when I need it. I’m looking forward to abusing his ass and face indoors and humiliating the crap out of him outdoors at the beach. Hopefully he survives, I don’t think he’s been in 24/7 for this long, ever! Thank you slave E for being up to the challenge.