Femdom Alpha Confidence

I sat down to lunch recently with the brilliant blonde, Mistress Troy, and over the course of two hours and several of the finest light courses at The Standard, we covered just about everything I had been wanting to talk to her about. It’s always refreshing to spend time with another respected Femdom professional. There’s only a few colleagues I feel comfortable enough with to talk shop, trade stories, ask advice, and crack jokes (how many slaves does it take to screw in a lightbulb? one to do it and six more to redo it properly), and Mistress Troy is definitely one of them. Out of all the ProDommes in New York City Troy is one of the women who has been practicing the longest, and her reputation is top-drawer. I was reminded of why her clients love her when we met: she is kind, intelligent, well-spoken, confident, and very down to Earth.

At first glance, humility, kindness and authenticity might seem like weakness, but in fact they are quite the opposite. It takes supreme confidence to be authentic and not feel the need to “play the part” of a dominant female. The woman who can let her natural beauty and power simply radiate without forcing it out into her environment is far more magnetic than the woman who feels the need to “show it.” I’m acquainted with many of the more renowned Mistresses in the industry, and the ones who have the best reputations, generally speaking, also happen to be superb human beings. It takes a lot of energy to run a thriving business and maintain your health, appearance and wardrobe, and the Dommes who do all those things successfully usually don’t have time or inclination to disparage the competition.

Nor do they need to! Mistress Troy and I have quite a few things in common (I like to think), not least of which is the fact that we are both fielding a constant stream of session requests. I try not to interfere in the business or reputations of any of my Femdom colleagues because it’s important to support women in business, not to mention women in general. It’s also helpful that my area of expertise as a young psychological dominant and intelligent, lifestyle D/s practitioner minimizes my competition. Granted, my steady income goes a long way towards helping me feel confident, but at the same time I have built my steady income as a direct result of my confidence. It’s a chicken and egg dichotomy in some ways, but at any time we can choose to embrace our good qualities, take a deep breath, and put our kindest, most authentic foot forward.

Try it next time you’re in the company of greatness. I guarantee you’ll come off as more confident–not less.